The world will try to mold you... but
be determined to be the woman that GOD
desires for you to be!
by Emily Susanne
I’ll never forget the first time I saw Owen’s face. His bright blue eyes captivated me, and they radiated a genuine warmth that drew me in. Although this was the moment when I met Owen in person, it was not the first time I was drawn to him.
Owen and I actually met online, a statement that many people (especially Christians) may be reluctant to admit. I know it sounds crazy, but even the very first photo I saw of Owen on his online profile radiated that same genuine warmth. I couldn’t stop thinking about him.
Although I’m not a huge fan of online dating and can see the many dangers of the practice, two people with good intentions can meet each other online. It just takes patience, prayer, and lots of precaution.
I found out quickly that Owen had connections with my family, so of course that influenced my decision to get to know him better. We chatted for almost two weeks before we met. I discovered how important his faith was to him, that he came from a big family, and that he practiced karate.
After we started officially dating, our relationship blossomed into a love better than any fairytale I’ve ever read. I’ve learned a lot from my relationship with Owen, and I want to share some of these lessons with you today.
Friendship is the Key
Owen is my best friend. Obviously I have girl friends who are like sisters to me, but the relationship that Owen and I have cultivated has helped us both to grow in ways that surprised me. I believe I am actually a better sister to my other friends because of what his friendship has taught me.
I have learned how to be vulnerable with Owen; how to share my deepest fears, pain, hopes, and dreams. I’ve learned about trust and sharing life with someone else.
A true friend bears the other person’s burdens. Friendship is about lifting one another up through struggles or pain.
Carry each other’s burdens, and in this way you will fulfill the law of Christ. (Galatians 6:2 NIV)
Finding Joy Every Day
I once heard that when someone is in love, everything in life looks better. In some ways, this is true. Owen is lighthearted and easy to be around. I tend to worry and overthink things (which is why I love to write), so we balance each other out in this way.
We have inside jokes and memories of fun and hilarious experiences. We go on random adventures and like to be spontaneous. Moments like these remind me that life isn’t all doom and gloom. We can find joy and adventure in the present if we truly want to.
Sometimes Owen and I like to simply sit out in nature and enjoy God’s creation. Slowing down and being thankful changes our perspective and increases our joy in any circumstance.
Give thanks in all circumstances; for this is God’s will for you in Christ Jesus. (1 Thessalonians 5:18 NIV)
Discovering True Love
My favorite part of my relationship with Owen is how we can know one another—faults and all—and still accept each other. This is unconditional love, and this is the kind of love God shows us every day.
Having Jesus at the center of our relationship has helped me see the true beauty of God’s sacrificial love. It is more than just a romantic feeling, it’s an action.
Every time we put someone else’s needs before our own (out of compassion and not fear), we are demonstrating true love. Jesus is the ultimate example of this true love in dying on the cross for our sins. How cool is it that we can follow the One who is the very definition of love!
Dear friends, let us love one another, for love comes from God.
Everyone who loves has been born of God and knows God. Whoever does not love does not know God, because God is love. (1 John 4:7-8 NIV)
Of course, Owen and I aren’t perfect. If love has taught me anything, it’s that I can be pretty selfish at times. But it’s also taught me about compassion and vulnerability. Love is indeed beautiful, and worth any sacrifice we make.
A New Journey
Last April, I went with Owen and his little sister to a butterfly garden. We marveled at the beautiful flowers and exotic winged creatures. Butterflies are one of my favorite things!
Suddenly I felt a tug on my hoodie. I turned around and there was Owen—on one knee with a beautiful ring in his hand. He asked me to marry him.
My initial response was one of disbelief. I couldn’t believe this was really happening! Of course I said yes, and our love story continues to unfold into a new journey filled with blessings and challenges.
I am so grateful for Owen and our friends and family. I’m even more thankful for Jesus, who showed me what true love was, and what to look for in a husband. I’m thankful for God’s grace every day as we continue on this adventure with Him.
Emily Susanne has a full life as a new college graduate and blogger at fearfullywonderfullyme.com.
She dedicated her life to follow Jesus, encourage others, and write with passion. When she isn't covered in pen ink or lost in a book, Emily can be found obsessing over cats and donuts.
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I am first and foremost a Child of the Most High God, then the Farmer’s wife, and then a mommy. I have a passion for Christ, but also a passion for other women to have a passion for Christ. I've spent much time earning various degrees, and traveling the world on various medical missions. All of my hard work and the Lord’s guidance has led me to the best life possible I could never have imagined, living on a farm where life moves slow and simple. Visit me at: Grace Garden And Homestead
Piper is a college freshman majoring in Christian Education/Ministry Formation & Business/Economics in the hopes of being equipped to go into the ministry or mission field long term.